The Pastor's Kid

Reviewed by Rachel                                                                                                                      

First of all, I want to say thank you to Barnabas Piper for approaching a challenging subject. It's not an easy topic for anyone (let alone the child of a famous minister) to talk about this subject publicly, in the hope that it will make a difference. Without people like him, this topic can often go unnoticed.

I found it a very easy read. Simple, friendly, and personal language meant I wanted
to pick it up and read through it (always nice for a hard topic book!). His topics were well
laid out and it wasn’t as confronting as I was expecting, but it also didn’t hide the truth.
There were plenty of personal stories, a few statistics, and God's presence and help throughout the book.

This book is clearly written by a Christian, who has been through the joys and challenges of growing up in a ministry household and come out the other side with a strong faith. He's not trying to point out the negatives of faith or Jesus, instead he talks openly about his own difficulties and how God helped him through.

The first seven chapters are thorough, challenging, and give you a good picture not only of the issues clergy children (PKs) can face, but also who can help change these issues and care for PKs. He talks about the 'Fishbowl Experience', being known of but not known, the stresses of church before family, and how difficult it can be to keep a parent-child
relationship strong while growing up.

The foreword tells pastors to ‘seek refuge in chapter eight’, so I was looking forward to
what it would have to say! He explores the benefits of growing up in a ministry household
and how they equip pastor’s kids for future ministry. I've heard many other positives about being a PK, and I thought perhaps there would be more detail about those elements. There were quite a few ‘shoulds’ after the book had been talking about not placing expectations on pastor’s kids and it seems the benefits he outlined were those that helped PKs make the informed choice to enter paid ministry. The author suggests that being a clergy child means that because you are prepared for ministry, you ought to enter paid ministry.

It's a great read that really gives a refreshing perspective about the life of being a PK and how it can shape your life and faith. I highly recommend it to pastors and pastor’s kids alike.


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